The Aunt Jemimah Post

An open question to Miss Monica Lewinsky: It’s hard to believe that you, Monica Lewinsky with sixteen years and a good education behind you, are still blaming others for your past dalliances with the then president of the United States, or so it appears. Are you truly sincere or are you simply trying to be relevant, as before when you deliberately pursued a very important person…a married man no less? While being a very important person is a good thing, if for the right reasons, must we, the public, continue to suffer your past mistakes dear Monica? Who knows, lack of self-forgiveness perhaps?

According to cable news today, Ms. Lewinsky is back again recapping her sorry affair with Bill Clinton. Hey, give it a rest Monica, indeed, give us a rest! After all, my dear girl, you are better than this, or can be.

In a speech in Philadelphia on Monday seeking to end cyber bullying, Lewinsky states the following as noted in a CNN article here:

“Sixteen years ago, fresh out of college, a 22-year-old intern in the White House, and more than averagely romantic, I fell in love with my boss in a 22-year old sort of way. It happens,” Lewinsky said. “But my boss was the president of the United States. That probably happens less often. Now I deeply regret it for many reasons, not the least of which is that people were hurt. And that is never okay.”

While there is no doubt that bullying can be quite painful to its victims and applaud Monica’s efforts to end it, I cannot go along with her self-delusions about being a 22 year old innocent in love with her boss, then bragging about him being “the president of the United States,” and then expressing regret in the same breath. No, this does not compute, plain and simple.

First, falling in love is a sad excuse for having the hots for one’s married boss, or anyone who is unavailable, and then acting upon it. If you truly love this person then be a good friend, if you can. But never abandon your self-esteem for fleeting moments of pleasure followed by subliminal shame, which ultimately brings a lot of heartache. After all, there is always BOB (“battery operated boyfriend,” as per Iyanla on OWN TV), waiting discreetly in that nightstand drawer if you don’t have a real boyfriend at the moment.

Next, at 22 years of age, most young women have good instincts and therefore well know the difference between being seduced and slyly becoming the seducer. I mean really. So playing the innocent ingénue at 40 plus years of age just ain’t going to fly no’mo!

So, my advice to Monica is really quite simple: forgive yourself so that you can let that mess go!

Meanwhile, peace and harmony, and do keep the faith.

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